Do boy band members have the same problems as girl group members?

Dunno bout boy bands but when my friends and I get mad at each other, we ignore and forget it about it or yell at each other then forget about it. In my experiences, when boys get truly mad at each other, they will stop talking with each other or physically fight

Arashi members are pretty special though, so I won't talk about them cause I'll sugar coat lol. Their personalities really help them in not getting into something fake imo. They really trust each other and they all go for the same goal and love what they do, and never fake-friendship, there's only one legit real life friendship in there -imo- so that probably makes it easier as well, not being involved with each other 24/7 (well if you consider how much time they spend with each other it's amazing they get along that well).

 

But Kat-tun for instance had issues since day 1, members never said they were friends with each other and had some infamous quarrels. I remember Super Junior members being pretty frown-inducing when they were being rude -imo- towards Kyuhyun since he started getting more than the senior members, solo works and all, and he was the youngest, something like that, like he shouldn't have that.

 

I think it really depends on the group and the members, but I do think girls are prone to do that more than boys. At the same time girls tend to be more intimate with other girls so the problems are deeper, if it makes any sense? In my school girl groups always had issues with each other but because they also tried to interact way more than boys, while they stick to the same people most of the time. In our last year though a big male group was formed but pretty girly-like they ended up hating each other and dividing in the two original boy groups. I think they took comments less seriously even if they end up getting to know somebody talked behind their backs, but they bad mouthed every other boy as well, especially to us girls.

 

Lol I ended up answering too much. and sugarcoating Arashi

I'd say in some ways it's a bit less indirect: guys are more willing to fight each other over stuff. Stereotypes typically occur because people assume causality instead of correlation - guys are typically more direct physically and verbally than girls. But as you say, it's dependent on the person: you can bet guys will think ill and can and do vocalize to others their grievances and pet peeves regarding someone or some people. I'd be willing to say that both sexes are equally as aggressive, just differing in the means of attack.

 

I've read some psych studies that state the girls form closer knit cliques/groups whereas guys form looser cohesive units. In some ways I can see that but in other ways I'd have to argue that it just seems guys are looser because we tend to go off and do our own things more - it's not that there's any less of a social hierarchy at play IMO.

Guys are a lot more direct when they have issues and then to resolve them quickly as a result. They also see grudges as something inconvenient and prefer to maintain a peaceful working environment for their own piece of mind. Creating a stressful environment out of ultimately irrelevant personal issues is considered irrational. Even if they do take issue with someone they tend to just roll with it and focus on the larger goal. Many of the examples you posted wouldn't work as effectively in a group of guys and would simply cause the group to turn against the one exhibiting such snide behavior.

Got7 members have mentioned JB used to have a temper. I imagine it has had its role in fights.
(https://www.youtube....g3fAYi6zw#t=19s 0:19 to 4:04. From an outsider perspective, it seems like they remember small details very well. Although the things they mentioned don't seem to be that serious, it wouldn't surprise me if they had a fight or two)
Infinite members have also mentioned fights and said Sungyeol and Myungsoo had a physical fight once.

I have and had guy friends who can (or could) really hold some grudges, and they don't limit them to one gender lol. All while pretending to not to care (sometimes it was obvious they were failing at that though). My (probably wrong) guess is that part of the reason why is that they don't want to be seen as some "aggressive male" stereotype. All of that happens between two or three friends though, not in group environments and that's a key difference. I REALLY doubt they would dare to do that same stuff amongst a big group of people. However, maybe it's easier to do it if there are at least two guys (in the same group) who can maintain grudges.