“Trying to not hurt others is something you can't do. People are creatures who hurt others just by existing even if they're not aware of it. Whether you're living or dying. you'll always be hurting someone. Once you're involved, you'll hurt someone, and even by not being involved, you might be hurting someone else as well...”
― Wataru Watari
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The other day I was watching tv-show where announcement about SMAP disbandment was discussed. It was aired the same day the announcement was made. I didn't know that Nakai Masahiro was the eldest among the members and that he was the leader of the group. The very moment I learned it, it flashed through my mind that it was his busy schedule (also Kimura Takuya's maybe) that became a reason for disbandment. It was said on that tv-show that only Nakai wanted to keep the group, Kimura was not sure and three other members wanted to disband the group.
Anyhow, I wanted to make a thread where we could discuss interpersonal relationship dynamics in different idol groups. Who hates whom, who loves whom, how does this change over time, etc.
Relationship problem is one of the main reasons for Japanese people to quit their jobs and search for other. Also, it's one of the reasons some people move from big cities to rural areas. Of course, there are different tensions at work almost everywhere on Earth, but in case of Japan it's worsened by "senpai-kohai" bonds, "group over person" idea and "the more the pressure the better the result" nurture principle (slowly disappearing, but still present).
If you know any obvious example of relationship problems within a group, feel free to share!
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“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross