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taskinist

Agreeing with above comments. It feels like people are expected to get married after a certain point, but I don't think that's fair or realistic or even necessarily smart. A good relationship is a good relationship regardless of if you have the paper or not, but a lot of people seem to value a marriage over a common-law relationship for some reason. (I got married 11 months after I started dating my husband but my situation is kind of weird, so... lol)
Oct 13 2015 06:34 AM

Moondoggie

I think it's good to be that grounded and not rush into legal ties which often cause more trouble for people. Especially the ones who rush into marriage. Almost all the people I know are married and many of them got married after 1-2 years of a relationship it feels more like an ego thing than something out of love. I know people who also split up and got a divorce after 6 months so I think right now you are in a better position. There is no need to do anything just because others do.
Oct 13 2015 12:15 PM

JennyInTokyo

I'm in the same position, it's close to mine and my boyfriend's fifth anniversary and we have no plans to get engaged or married anytime soon. That suits us just fine! I see people who have been together for a smaller amount of time getting engaged and married and it does feel wierd but I'm happy the way we are. People ask us why we haven't got engaged yet but we don't need it. Only get engaged if you both want to not because other people are.
Oct 14 2015 11:22 AM