I don't want to really make this too long. But for the past month or 2 a single thought has been terrorising my brain. Death. This comes along with the my grandfather on my fathers side had been diagnosed with cancer and is terminally ill. Right now, as it is,he's edging closer. He's constantly in a mechanical wheelchair, and he needs a small tank of oxygen carried with him at all times.
A while after his diagnosis I woke up after a sleep wondering what death was like. A dangerous thing to do I now realise, as I had come to the conclusion pretty quickly that death was like sleep. Not like when you dream, I don't dream very often. I just kinda... fade out when I sleep and if I do dream I don't remember the dreams, I just wake up as soon as I fall asleep and bam it's day. That scares me. It's kinda like I disappear for 12 or so hours to the world. That's what started me on the idea that death is like sleep.
In short would it be that when we pass on, nothing happens? Everything just stops, how concept of time stops, our thoughts stops, our very conciousness stops. In essence we would be nothing more. You can see why I'm really getting distressed about it because it makes sense to me.
I've lost a ton of sleep over this, and you can't blame me. After all this thought I haven't really wanted to fall asleep ever again. Though of course, common sense knocks in and I get a few hours of sleep each night. To help calm myself down I take a moment to look into the idea of Near-death experiences. It seems like nonsense at first but it's the only thing I can cling on to. But of course, I'm skeptical about the idea. There are so many explanations as to why such a thing is possible but no one really knows. There's nothing really to say that this truly does happen when someone dies. It may just occur before death. I don't know.
I'm tired of spending every night thinking about this. I'm just tired, and sick of it. I want to yell out "just tell me what happens". I don't care if they're spoilers, haha. But I want this pounding sinking feeling that I have in the very depths of my soul to stop and I want to be at peace with the idea of death and able to accept it as it is.
That's all I really wanted to say. I wanted to post this now because today 3 years ago my grandfather on my mothers side was admitted to hospital and passed away 9 days later taking a sudden turn for the worse. I was very close to him so of course, I was very upset.
Well that's all. I don't know if there's anything that can give me any comfort now.
A while after his diagnosis I woke up after a sleep wondering what death was like. A dangerous thing to do I now realise, as I had come to the conclusion pretty quickly that death was like sleep. Not like when you dream, I don't dream very often. I just kinda... fade out when I sleep and if I do dream I don't remember the dreams, I just wake up as soon as I fall asleep and bam it's day. That scares me. It's kinda like I disappear for 12 or so hours to the world. That's what started me on the idea that death is like sleep.
In short would it be that when we pass on, nothing happens? Everything just stops, how concept of time stops, our thoughts stops, our very conciousness stops. In essence we would be nothing more. You can see why I'm really getting distressed about it because it makes sense to me.
I've lost a ton of sleep over this, and you can't blame me. After all this thought I haven't really wanted to fall asleep ever again. Though of course, common sense knocks in and I get a few hours of sleep each night. To help calm myself down I take a moment to look into the idea of Near-death experiences. It seems like nonsense at first but it's the only thing I can cling on to. But of course, I'm skeptical about the idea. There are so many explanations as to why such a thing is possible but no one really knows. There's nothing really to say that this truly does happen when someone dies. It may just occur before death. I don't know.
I'm tired of spending every night thinking about this. I'm just tired, and sick of it. I want to yell out "just tell me what happens". I don't care if they're spoilers, haha. But I want this pounding sinking feeling that I have in the very depths of my soul to stop and I want to be at peace with the idea of death and able to accept it as it is.
That's all I really wanted to say. I wanted to post this now because today 3 years ago my grandfather on my mothers side was admitted to hospital and passed away 9 days later taking a sudden turn for the worse. I was very close to him so of course, I was very upset.
Well that's all. I don't know if there's anything that can give me any comfort now.
What you seem to be going through is kinda what all religions and philosophies and whatnot deal with: what happens when we die. (Also mixed with paranoia, I think.) The short answer is, of course, no one knows what happens. It's sort of up to each individual to figure out their beliefs regarding any potential afterlife. I like to think that whatever a person believes will happen after death will happen to them. Like, if their beliefs give them consolation during life, then what more do you really need? Personally, I believe in reincarnation, and that offers a kind of solace to me whenever I get scared.
Obviously, you don't want to live being afraid to go to sleep. It'll probably just make you even more anxious and it can really mess with your brain and body if you don't get enough sleep. Maybe it'd be useful for you to try to figure out what your beliefs are (while your awake). Like, do some research into all the different theories. Or, find some way to relax before you go to bed. Also, you could try keeping a dream diary (where you write down dreams the second you wake up), just to convince yourself that being asleep does not equal unconsciousness. (I've fainted/lost consciousness before, and it's quite different.)
There's gotta be some theory/belief about death/what happens after death that'll be logical to you, while also offering solace rather than fear and paranoia. I hope I don't sound harsh in any of this, but I just think that if you believe something like this (that after death, nothing happens) and it's negatively affecting your life to this degree, there has to be a way to change it for the better.